Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Separation

Dad's Log, Earthdate 15, 12, 2009 -

Some backstory.

I've been working in San Diego yet still living an hour and a half drive away (depending on traffic). It's only a limited position, so I work full (actually averaging over 40 hour weeks) time, but don't have a permanent position. It's been a little over 3 months now since I started and I drive down Monday and don't go back home till Tuesday or Wednesday night and then back down again the next morning. It's definitely too much to commute every day on both gas and time, mostly gas.

So that's what this post is about (which has been way neglected I know). I've said before that there are things you will not be able to understand until you have your baby to love and it's true. I remember being in bootcamp for the Navy and there was a guy in there that was losing it. He was so wrecked and he even tried escaping. He just had a baby right before I left for bootcamp if I remember correctly and at the time I called him an idiot for joining the military when he just started a family. I didn't even feel any compassion for him (which isn't my strong suit anyhow lol). Now thinking back, I don't want to imagine being in his position. Not being there is the worst thing ever.

I do enjoy being back to work and I most enjoy the stimulation, but I just wish I didn't have to miss out on so much at home. It's partially paid back by Claire's reaction when I do come home at night. One week in particular when I had to work five 12 hour days and couldn't go home until the week end was especially fantastic. Apparently she had been a real scorch all week and wouldn't eat much and was just in a bad mood all around. I remembered back to a story I was retold of when I lost my grandma and for a week I wouldn't eat (I don't know the rest of my behavior, I was 4 I think). I don't know if that was the case, that she thought I wasn't coming back or not, but never-the-less it killed me to think she might be feeling that way. And when I finally got home she ran to me and yelled "Dada!" and came into my arms and repeatedly hugged me and kissed me and nuzzled her face against mine and would lean back and look at me and then point at me and exclaim to Alexis "Dada!" and go back to hugging me. I don't know how long she did that, but she repeated that for a while and it was the best thing I could have asked for.

I don't know how mothers or fathers can be separated for months at a time. I feel like I have to try my best not to think about it. Cuz not holding my fiance or baby every night just plain out is teh suq.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Attack of the Shite Monster! A cautionary tale of naps and diaper tabs.

I don't know how many people have seen The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood but it's an awesome movie about women and their relationships with each other and their families. Seriously, go rent it cause it's fantastic. One of the first times I saw it a particular scene stood out to me. In the scene Ashley Judd is plays Vivi Walker who is going through a kind of nervous breakdown as she fights alcoholism and in the middle of the night her young kids all get sick at the same time and as she goes to help them out she steps in her child's poop. As soon as I saw it I instantly thought , I'm not looking forward to any kind of poop crisis when I have kids. Up to this point I've dealt with my fair share of poop incidents an occasional poop through when Claire was tiny, a brush with disaster when Claire tried to throw an uncontained poop filled diaper, but nothing I would have considered a crisis. About 2 weeks ago I think we got pretty close to a poop crisis!

Claire was taking her morning nap and she was dressed in a light weight dress that didn't have one of those little diaper cover undies. When she woke up she didn't make much noise just a few grunty sounds so I figured it was business as usual and went in to get her. When I walked into her room she was sitting in her crib in the far left corner holding her stuffed monkey and smiling at me. I walked up to her crib, said hi and went to pick her up. But instead of raising her arms up she looked to the right side of the crib, pointed to something, and then looked back at me with a sad face. When I followed the direction of her chubby little finger I saw it. A little brown mound of poop just sitting on the sheets. When I looked back at her I noticed that under her dress, her diaper was hanging half way off. One of the tabs had come un-tabbed! I looked at her, smiled and said "Uh oh girl. You pooped in your bed!" and as I began to call for Jason she started crying. Not like whining or a sad little sob, this was a full on wailing cry with tears and everything! I picked her up and hugged her and told it was ok but she just kept looking back at that little poop and screaming. It scared her ... she had been officially visited by a Shite Monster, and she did not like it! I can't stop thinking of how she found it, what she did when she discovered this little brown monster in her bed. She didn't cry before I came in the room but she definitely knew the Shite Monster was there. I wish I had been able to see it cause I feel like it had to be one of those classic moments!

Jason came in and saved the day, he picked it up with a plastic bag and threw it out and it was gone. But she was so upset. My mom reminded me that we were lucky that she didn't play with it or smear it all over her crib. As it was we washed everything in her bed even things that were no where near the poop. And Claire got a bath a new diaper, tabs in place, and a better outfit! This is by far the most hilarious event of our parenting experience. I don't remember the last time I laughed so hard, and even now as I type this and read it allowed to Jason, I'm cracking up! In the scope of poop crisis' I'm sure this ranks near the bottom, unless you talk to Claire who is probably traumatized, and it's certainly nothing compared to stepping in your child's poop. And as naive as it may be I will cross my fingers every night and hope that we don't get visited by the Shite Monster again!

Until Next Time ... Stay Classy

Saturday, August 8, 2009

At the Beginning

Dad's Log, Earthdate 08, 08, 2009 -

I'm a little late this week due to our large double part Zoo Review. That almost killed us lol. Anyhow, I'm still unsure on how I want to go about this and I guess it's time to wing it again. The easiest is to start with Claire's birth and go forward from there. So...May 29, 2008 (picture some transitional effects as we now delve into my past...you know, like they do it on TV.)


We woke up way early with everything packed and ready to go. It was already two days past Lex's due date and we had a scheduled C-section to attend. Well Alexis's water broke as we were waking up. Perfect timing if it was going to happen at all. I'm glad it did just so that we knew that she was ready to come out.


A couple hours later we were in the delivery room and they were holding up a messy baby. I can't pinpoint my exact initial reaction to seeing her. I think my heart jumped a little and I felt a little shocked that there in front of me was our baby. (Which I still get that feeling sometimes today.) I also had a part of my mind wondering what I should be doing and feeling now. I wasn't overwhelmed as they appear to be in movies and I felt bad for not having that total joy and excitement at everything. I must say in my defence that I am not a big reactor to anything. I take unexpected events and just keep going with it as if I knew it was coming. I guess you could say I roll with the punches. But it's more than that. I feel like my mind processes everything that happens in a logical sense and it just doesn't feed my emotions. I found out that this trait was inherited from my Grandma, although I don't remember her too much, she apparently had a way of rationalizing things and moving through. So I mention this to help explain or defend myself (mainly from myself) on why I didn't react the way I'd come to expect was normal.


I do remember getting angry at the nurse though. She was doing her job, but I didn't like it one bit. Claire being delivered via c-section meant they had to keep her crying so as to expel all the liquid from her lungs (I think that's what it was.) So Claire and I were in the nursery with all the other babies and she was getting her bath and they were testing her and measuring and all that stuff, but they had to keep irritating her feet so she would continue crying and I just wanted to comfort her so bad.

I kept thinking over and over during our 4 days in the hospital that same shock at seeing her and realizing that she is part of me (a half part really.) We certainly were proud that we had the cutest baby in the hospital (and we had a scout report back to us on a pair of twins we heard were some competition...but they weren't.) The stay in the hospital wasn't bad. They had an extra bed in the room so I was able to stay the entire time. We had constant visitors which was awesome and Claire was doing well. It was also fun to walk around the halls in my pj's and slippers haha.

The first weeks are a blur. Luckily we have an enormous amount of pictures from then heh. Claire was going to sleep at about 4-6 am every day and so that's when we went to sleep. We did get lucky and got a baby that liked to sleep. She slept in our room (although never in our bed) until I think 4 months...maybe it was 2 months. But that's where I'm gonna leave it until next time.

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Zoo Review Part 2

We're back for round 2 of this review. Hopefully we'll stay on track and not write another super long post. So by now you should be able to navigate yourself through the zoo with your eyes closed, but in this edition we're going to talk about some attractions at the zoo as well as our long awaited reviews.

The San Diego Zoo has a few really fun attractions that are baby and parent friendly, some of which are included in the price of admission. Currently there are 4 shows at the zoo, we have only seen 2. Take Flight: An Avian Adventure is a new show in the Hunte Ampitheater, located in Cat Canyon. We saw this show in it's first week of performances and thought it was pretty entertaining. Lots of different and unusual types of birds are featured and fly over your head. It is both exciting and terrifying if you harbor a similar dislike to birds as Lex. Sea Lion Show- It Began With a Roar is the other show we've seen. It performs in the Wegeforth Bowl which is right behind the Reptile House. It's full of fun music and cool animal including, but not limited to, Sea Lions. As far as this show goes, if you've seen one Sea Lion show, you've seen them all. But it's a fun show for kids and cool if you haven't seen it. The 2 shows we haven't seen are, SOAR - A Symphony in Flight, which runs during night zoo and only through the summer, and the Dr. Zoolittle Show which is in the children's zoo. All of these shows are free for your enjoyment.

The other 2 attractions are two-fers. They are fun and provide transportation though the Zoo. Skyfari aerial tram costs $4 to ride each way unless you're a member, then it is free! It takes you from the front of the zoo, in front of the reptile house, to the very back of the zoo near polar bear plunge. Skyfari takes you high in the sky in a people sized bucket, which seats 4, for an aerial view of the zoo. Note: if you are traveling with a stroller it will have to be left at whichever side you depart from. The Guided Bus tour is the other opportunity to rest your feet while viewing the zoo. It costs $10 for Adults $7 for kids 3-11 and Members pay $8.50 for adults and $5 for a child. This double decker bus covers about 75% of the zoo and takes about 35 minutes. The driver is also your guide and will tell you interesting facts about the zoo and it's residents as you ride along. If you choose to take the ride, the right side (passenger) is a better side to sit on, you'll see more animals this way. Included in your bus ticket is the use of Express Busses which will drop you off at designated points on the map, another good way to rest your feet.

The San Diego zoo offers a world class zoo experience for you and your family. But how much will it set you back? For one day of admission the best thing you can do is purchase a best value ticket. It's $35 for adults and $26 for children 3-11. This ticket includes the Bus tour, Express tour, and Skyfari. If you plan of visiting the Zoo more than once in a year your best bet is to purchase a membership. For more information on membership and the San Diego Zoo visit their website at http://www.sandiegozoo.org/.

Reviews on the San Diego Zoo!


Navigation with baby/toddler (ease of travel)

Lex's Review - The SD Zoo has very wide walkways so there is ample room for a stroller, however some parts of the zoo have smaller roads or stairs and it can be hard to maneuver through or around them. Their map is very easy to read and follow. For Navigation, I give the SD Zoo a 4 out of 5.


Jason's Review - I will say that getting to a particular place is easy for us...but we've been a few times...or a lot of times. But the new signs they have and an excellent map make it easier The paths can be a little narrow on the streets/paths that have a bus route and only when a bus is goes through. Navigation gets a 4.0 out of 5.


Baby Friendly Activities

Lex's Review - Any zoo is a good activity for a baby but the SD Zoo has lots of entertaining shows for young children. I also really like the viewing areas for animals there is so much to look at. This is one of my favorite places to take Claire. For Activities I give the SD Zoo a 5 out of 5.

Jason's Review - The whole zoo is a giant activity for a baby. The aviary's are great and Claire loves herself some monkeys. Shows can be a good time to sit, relax, enjoy some animals and if need be feed a baby. The children's section has some nice hands on experiences to gain and overall I'll give Activities a 5.0.

Bathroom/Changing Facilities

Lex's Review - I know of 3 family restrooms in the zoo. One in the Children's Zoo, one near the Giraffes the other in Elephant Odyssey. All 3 are clean and easy to find, I have never had a hard time finding a bathroom to change Claire in, but some bathrooms are a little dingy. For Bathrooms/Changing facilities I give the SD Zoo a 4 out of 5

Jason's Review - There's a few family restrooms, which are nice to be able to change your baby in instead of in a crowded bathroom. As far as the regular bathrooms go...they're so-so. Numerous enough. I'll give them (Bathrooms) a 3.5 out of 5.

Food

Lex's review - I have never been super impressed by the food at the zoo. It's usually pretty expensive and not extra tasty. They have a lot of restaurants and food carts so it's not in short supply. I will say that their kids meals are awesome (I like to order one for myself!)! We usually bring in our own food not only to save some money but also cause it's usually better. For food I give the SD Zoo a 3 out of 5

Jason's Review - Just like at most places that aren't food centralized, this zoo rates medium for it's quality and price. I prefer to make a picnic out of it and just refill our souvenir cups at the park with discounted soda. They do have a tasty spinach tortilla turkey wrap though. So, an average rating of 3 on Food.
Bang for the Buck

Lex's Review - We've been members at the zoo for 2 years now and we go all the time. But even if we didn't I would still think it was worth the money. There aren't many places you can take a baby or toddler with ease and the SD Zoo is not only easy, its really enjoyable, even for small babies. For me watching Claire point at different animals and laugh at them is worth every penny. For bang for the buck I give the SD Zoo a 5 out of 5

Jason's Review - If you plan to go even twice in a year, or once here and once to the Wild Animal Park, it is worth it to get an annual pass. And it is well worth it. We all love animals and a nice stroll and being in such a rich environment filled with things from all over the world. It's not as crowded as a theme park and much more relaxing then waiting in long lines for rides. Easily 5 for 5 on my bang for buck.
There you have it! Our 2 part review of The World Famous San Diego Zoo! Hope we didn't scare you away with it's length! We promise we'll try to make the next one shorter! Until next time ... Stay Classy

Monday, August 3, 2009

Zoo Review Part 1

Hello! We're back to do another review but instead of reviewing a product we're going spice things up and review a place. The World Famous San Diego Zoo! If you know us at all, you'll know that we LOVE zoos, especially the SD Zoo. We're members and we go all the time, so it seemed fitting to be our first location review.


The San Diego Zoo is a 100 acre animal oasis in Balboa Park, San Diego, which features over 4,000 animals representing 800 species. Among those is the Giant Panda, a rare find in zoos across the globe. Since its beginning in 1922, the San Diego Zoo has been extremely active and commited with the preservation of endangered species. As well as having a vast array of animals they are also a collector of rare plant life.


The zoo is divided roughly into habitational regions. Here's a quick run through of some key areas. If you head straight out from the entrance you run into Monkey Trails. Monkey trails consists of, you guessed it, a lot of monkeys. As you travel along the elevated walkways you also see some pigs and colorful birds, all representing the tropical rainforest. Also in the tropical rainforest region, you'll find the winding walkways of the Tiger River. With its lush plant life it's almost hard to remember to watch for Tapirs, crocodiles, an assortment of birds and, Jason's all time favorite, Tigers(which are near impossible to see but the picture to the right is from a rare spotting during which Jason nearly died from the excitment)! At the end of the rainforest is the Hippo exhibit, which if you catch it at the right time is super entertaining.


Heading off to the right from the entrance you'll find another popular area of the zoo that is an African/Outback jumble, which I'm convinced is the junk drawer of the zoo. Right off the bat you'll find the Koala exhibit, with the largest number of Koalas outside of Australia, and they are stinking adorable even though they're perpetually asleep. Across from the Koalas is the African part of this jumble. Here you'll find Rhinos and Lex's favs the Giraffes. On some days you can feed the giraffes little dog biscuits for a small fee. Around the corner to the left is Bear Canyon which houses lots of big bears! Around the corner to the right you'll find Kangaroos, Camels, and Llamas.


If you continue toward the Kangaroos you'll run into Cat canyon, which has more than just cats, in fact, there are only like 3 cats there! Not only will you find Leopards and Mountain Lions, you'll also find Warthogs, Hyenas - cooler than you would think, and Hornbills (think Toucan Sam but HUGE!). At the end of this trail is the famous Giant Panda Research Center. You have to wait in line to enter this enclosed exhibit and it's a quiet zone, so if you sneeze they basically feed you to the pandas. If you decide that's too much stress you can head up the escalator to Elephant Odyssey!


Elephant Odyssey is the newest, and frankly most impressive, area of the zoo. This expansion is meant to compare animals of today to animals that would have been found in Southern California 12,000 years ago. Clearly, the Elephants live here and they have an ENORMOUS enclosure that runs down the middle of this area. They have state of the art facilities including an Elephant Care Center and a swimming pool, complete with waterfall. Divas! Intermixed between life sized statues of their prehistoric ancestors are, Jaguars, Lions and Sloths. Other residents include, Capybaras, Tapirs, Guanacos (which in my opinion are llamas), Rattlesnakes, Horses, Pronghorns, and a very popular family of Dung Beetles. Newcomers to the SD Zoo are California Condors, which have recently begun to come back from the brink of extinction. These birds have an incredible wingspan and are certainly a sight to see. Last time we were there we witnessed them dining on what everyone else thought was a rabbit. Lex thought it was a cat and to this day is convinced some old lady is very lonely.


In the far corner of the zoo is the Polar Bear Plunge and what was formerly called Horn and Hoof Mesa but now seems to be nameless. If you catch them at the right time of day, morning or mid afternoon, and can elbow your way through the crowd to a good vantage point, you'll be in for a treat! These bears are so much fun to watch when they're awake. If you don't catch them goofing off, you'll find them asleep, in this case you'll get a better view since they usually sleep close to the glass and less people are there, though more than you might expect since the bears are just laying there and could be dead for all that we know or all that Lex knows since she thinks every sleeping animal is dead. In this Tundra-y region you can also see a Pallas' Cat which is super cool if you can spot it, and an aviary of Arctic birds, which are all ducks. The Zoo Map claims there are reindeer here ... I have never seen a reindeer in this area. I have seen a reindeer exhibit complete with fake antlers screwed into a tree, but I have seen no trace of an actual reindeer.


Horn and Hoof Mesa (possibly named something else) has animals with horns and hooves (have you noticed a pattern in region names?). Zebras, various gazelle-type animals, some pigs, general hooved creatures, which may or may not have horns, live here. Please note that if you choose to traverse the entirety of Horn and Hoof Mesa, you will come upon a gigantic hill that will make you want die. Just something you should know.


The final direction you can head from the Entrance is left. This will take you to both the Children's Zoo and, what Jason has dubbed, the Reptile Corner, but what is actually called Reptile Mesa. The first thing you'll see is the Reptile house. This is the only completely enclosed exhibit in the zoo, meaning each enclosure has a ceiling on it. Inside there are all sorts of snakes and lizards and frogs and on the outside you can see the Komodo Dragon that bit Sharon Stone's ex husband's toe during a behind the scenes tour clearly leading to their divorce. Behind the Reptile House is an assortment of Tortoises, Lizards, and Crocodiles. A must see is the Galapagos Tortoise exhibit which houses the oldest animals in the park, some of which are older than the zoo itself!


Back up past the Reptile House is the Children's Zoo. Inside this mecca of miniature people there are some real gems. They have the obligatory petting zoo (goats and sheep), a brand new Fisher Price Playground, and an insect house. Despite this being a Children's section, there are some really cool animals here. River otters are always fun to watch, visit the zoo's nursery, and see an Ocelot which is gorgeous, although it seems like an odd placement considering the warning signs to stay back for fear of being peed on. (What I wouldn't pay to know how many kids got a golden shower from that little cat.) The rest of the Children's zoo has educational exhibits and is a lot of fun. Most exhibits have child friendly viewing areas so it's perfect for tinys.


And that's an, almost, complete overview of the zoo. I would like to mention that when we began this overview it was supposed to be a "quick run through " it has now become a guided tour of the zoo. We just saved you money on a bus tour. Since we think this has a lot of good info and fun commentary, we've decided to make this review a 2 parter. So, until tomorrow ... Stay Classy




Thursday, July 30, 2009

Baking

I think every girl has an idea of what kind of mother she's going to be, or wants to be. Or if she doesn't she, at least, has an idea of what she thinks a mother should be like. For me it was a woman who is involved, and caring, with an overwhelming desire to feed her child plate after plate of homemade pasta, I clearly grew up in an Italian family. I have this picture (probably from some awesomely cheesy Disney channel movie) of a young girl sitting in the kitchen baking cookies and talking with her Mom. Problem is ... I'm not much of a baker. I don't see myself in the same way I imagine Moms to be. And I'm totally okay with that. If I've learned anything in my short time as a Mother, it's that there are a million different ways to be a mom and not a single one of them is the right way.

I guess I knew I was going to stray from my Motherly vision from the moment Claire was born. Everyone says when you hold your baby for the first time you fall in love. As I held her for the first time I thought to myself, "Where's all this love everyone's talking about?" Don't get me wrong, I thought she was the most adorable baby I'd ever seen but I just didn't have that moment. To me she was a little stranger who I barely knew aside from her kicking the crap out of my belly (which I didn't actually appreciate). As the weeks progressed I grew to like her a lot but I still didn't love her like I thought I was supposed to. When I finally decided that I did love her it was pretty conditional. It took me about 6 weeks before I felt full on unconditional love for her. From the outside it seems so cold not to love your baby immediately, but to me it felt normal. I needed to get to know her better and she needed to get to know me. I don't think I'm the only woman to feel this way upon the birth of their child. With so many different types of women, it seems unnatural for all of us to feel the exact same way about the same event. At first I felt really bad about my reaction to Claire and how long it took me to connect with her, but now I feel so much closer to her because I gave myself the time I needed to become the type of Mom I know how to be.

More than a year later, I've cast aside my vision of the perfect mother for a more realistic version. As the time passes I become more comfortable and confident with my style of mothering. It's become clear to me that I don't have to change who I am at the core to be a good mom. I might not change a diaper as quickly as other mothers, but the diaper still gets changed. I'm more laid back than most moms, and I think that's great. I will take Claire to Disneyland more times than I can count before she will be able to remember it and I will think it's worth it, even if other moms don't. I can be involved and caring while sarcastically cracking jokes on the side. I can use the word "really?" as discipline effectively. And I can sit in the kitchen with Claire talking and eating cookies without having to become a baker.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Where to Begin?

Dad's Log, Earthdate 28, 07, 2009 -

So, I wish we had started this blog when we had Claire so that we could talk about things as they happened instead of the way I'm about to try. I'm going to attempt to go through my memory and just talk about some stuff.

If you don't know us then you may not know that we aren't yet married and that Claire was an early gift. (Nice way of saying we oopsed that one.) I have always wanted to be a father and have a family, and I couldn't have asked for anything better than my little girl. It was also a nice relief to have her now because doctor's told Alexis at one point that they aren't sure she'd be able to have kids and after she turns 30 it would be even harder. So I count myself blessed to have her and hopefully we can get married and have another in the next couple years.

Having your own child is such a life changer (I know, I know, everyone says that). You really don't realize it until you have one, but it changes how you look at almost everything. Any time I watch a movie and see a baby get kidnapped or hear about a baby being real sick or disabled it effects me in such a more emotional level. Having Claire fills me with such a bigger purpose in life and I don't even care what my situation is like as long as I am taking care of her and she grows up happy and well.

A love for your child is truly unconditional. I don't care how much of pain she can be at times (and she can be a PAIN!), I'll always miss her as soon as she goes down for a nap or I walk out the door with out her. Claire becomes more of an individual every day and I don't want to leave her in fear I'm going to miss something new she says or does. I always wondered how I'd be as a parent and if it'd be different from when I helped babysit/raise my brothers. And it is way different for me in such a good way.

I'm kind of blabbing about my overall feel on the last year and nothing in particular all at once... but I did feel it important to express to you what she means to me and how important she is in my life before I do any posts about specific events.

I'll be back next week to continue my personal logs, but you can look forward to Lex's log and another combined review later this week/week end.